“I want to be LOVED!”

“I want to see my family!”

“I WANT to be healthy again!!”

I WANT is a powerful statement. Full stop. Nothing else needs to be added. You dont need to know the future, what happens to the desire after you state it, .. or anything! Claiming your desires is powerful and complete unto itself.

We shut down our clarity when we start gettin all up in Life’s business – acting like we know what’s gonna happen next. Trying to avoid pain by telling ourselves things aren’t possible or it’s-never-happened-before-so-why-would-it-now.

It’s not up to you to make stuff happen or choose the “appropriate and reasonable” desires from the “impossible” ones.

Its your job to be more totally IN your heart and body and welcome the lust for life that wants to move through.

In my experience (and through witnessing clients) claiming your desires without adding anything onto them feels empowering, enlivening, fun! And True!

And then.. funnily enough, you are much more relaxed and open to the ways your desire is trying to show up for you, much more open to receiveing them!

As a highly sensitive person who can feel what the other is feeling, and who often cares and is very impacted by the feelings and experiences of others.. you quite likely learnt how to regulate the emotions in the environment (or at least feel vaguely safe) by tuning into others and changing your behavior to soothe Them. This leaves you in the precarious position of needing Them to be regulated (or loving, or kind) in order for you to be ok. The alternative to this is to learn how to regulate your nervous system as a distinct and self-loving survival function, inside your own body. Which is great. Because that’s where your incredibly intelligent survival and intuition impulses originate!

When you’re inside your own body (and trusting it), you can experience regulation, settling and resilience regardless of the psychic/emotional noise around you.

This is Big. And has a BIG impact on whether you feel you have Choice and the ability to step away from situations that don’t serve you. Cause lets be honest.. when you’re living from remote control, it takes way more energy to operate things, and isn’t really that satisfying longterm.

The thing that stops many empaths from moving from remote control to inhabiting their own animal body, is that when we first turn attention to the inner experience, we may initially feel a lot of strong and even “unsafe” feelings, sensations or emotions. Many folk will take this to mean “I just need to try harder to regulate everyone else” or “Shit, it’s not safe in my body, so I’m leaving the whole Body-thing altogether and disassociating to somewhere safer!”

So rather than these 2 (exhausting) options.. We can instead treat it like we’re wooing a wild animal.

Imagine with me that your nervous system is a wild tiger who’s retreated into a cave and is definitely not sure about whether it’s safe here. It’s holding a long history of strong feelings and quite a bit of overwhelm and it would secretly really love someone to come and help it feel safe in the world. All this wild animal knows so far is that it’s told to be quiet when it’s upset, or that it blows its lid when it can’t hold back anymore. … So you wouldn’t start by going right up to the tiger and talking to it, or poking it.. You’d start by being general and open. You might start by just sitting down and being quiet a distance away from it, looking at the sky or the dirt under you, Being.. Allowing the animal to feel that you mean to be kind and to listen without any pressure or demand.

How is it to be here? in this moment, in the room or space you’re in? Is there anything pleasant or okay about your experience? If there is.. Can you ask yourself – how do you know that you know it’s pleasant? What tells you? Maybe there’s a warm feeling in your belly, or your eyes soften a little at the edges. Maybe you notice your breathing is a little deeper than normal and stroking the fabric on your pants feels soothing?

When you spend time noticing and attending to these pleasant or okay things, it’s like placing treats at the entrance to the cave for your nervous system, and giving your felt-sense animal time to come out, check things out and be nourished by the treats…

From here, this incredibly simple practice (of taking time with what’s ok and feeling it in your body) will have helped your nervous system settle enough to get closer and get curious with it.

In my sessions with clients, this part of our work is a lot about experiencing the different branches of the nervous system (flight, fight, freeze, social connection/fawn) as safe.

If, as you hang out with feeling and sensing your body, the settling that came with the pleasant sensations shifts into agitation in the legs .. we’d spend time checking out if (contrary to the automatic response to start thinking, leave or reach out to charm me or get angry) this agitation is ok to feel.

This is groundbreaking for many people. That their uncomfortable sensations Aren’t a signal they need to react by Doing something to get away from them, but a signal the body has something to say, or the body is storing stress.

Together we gently move from something nourishing (a pleasant emotion, thought or sensation in some part of the body) to the thing you’ve previously avoided. The agitation, the fear, the anger or the vagueness. As you experience that you Can handle the sensations inside your own body, they will begin to settle and disperse and change to something more regulated. And like this, you are building your capacity (and love!) for staying with and IN your body.

Slowly you start to trust that feeling of constriction when someone asks you to help them with a task, and you say “I cant do that, sorry” rather than (internally) “what do they need? will they be super upset if I don’t say yes? Am I safe to say no?” .. and then overriding yourself and saying yes when you actually mean no.

You start to build a primary relationship with You, your animal body and your life force. Life in a body then becomes pleasurable, becomes open, becomes free(er).

I take female practitioners through this process in my 3 month 1:1 program and it makes such a huge difference to how they feel in themselves, to their energy levels, their resilience and enjoyment of their good work in the world, and also of their precious love for themselves… from inside their own body.

Shifting to embodied self-connection also means the boundarylessness and confusion of living from remote control is no longer there. You know what you want, what you feel and eventually, clearly, what’s right for you. Of course, this impacts your clarity with stating your rates at work, your boundaries/choices in relationships and your capacity to step away from dynamics that drain you. Being and empath is a gift.. but not when we ignore the messages from the sensitive apparatus that is your body.

This program is a good fit for you if you’re ok with feeling your feelings, have done a decent amount of inner work and are spiritually oriented. It’ll be good for you if you want to serve your populations (clients or family) but don’t want to do the same old over-giving and exhaustion, and if you hold a thread of knowing to the wisdom of the earth (even if it’s dormant… I have a particular love and gift for shining a light on the wisdom in You). We move through 3 phases, embodying your spiritual and animal knowing, healing unconscious patterns held in the nervous system and attachment system and strengthening your relationship with your inner judge and your mind so you can move forward with strength, resilience and self encouragement!

If you’re interested, reach out HERE, I’ll ask you some questions to see if we’re a good fit and we could begin soon

If you start with that (incorrect) sentiment, everything after that tends to be an apology, avoidance or discount of your lived reality

“I’m not really scared, I’m ok”

“Yes you can have that thing (that makes my belly tightened as I think of giving it away.. my belly really shouldn’t be tightening and I wish it wouldn’t)”

If we start instead with the presumption that your experience is valid, your needs important and your feelings precious and to be treated with honour and tenderness …

There’s no reason to over ride your experience or needs in favour of someone else’s*. No reason to say yes when you mean no, no reason to discount You in favour of someone else.

(*Unless we’re talking about parenting a dependant child)

If we start from that place, everything is an opportunity for honest sharing of your internal world. And when you honestly share your internal world without belittling, or denying it, the world will show you who is to be trusted and who isn’t.

You will naturally move away from the people who disrespect or deny your experience, and naturally move towards those who have space, time and care for you. Because they behave like they love you having boundaries, and that makes for healthy relationship.

Here’s my take:

Just because you’ve read books on trauma and done a few courses doesn’t necessarily mean you can call your work trauma informed. And, calling your work trauma informed before it actually is can be (unintentionally) misleading, shaming and confusing for your clients. Because it directs them to relate to trauma on the level of the mind. It can have them believing they should be able to Think their way out of a trauma state or reaction (and by trauma here, I’m referring to any frozen or reactive responses arising from the reptilian brain).

Trauma is primarily held in the reptilian brain and the nervous system and must be met on the level of the body. If you haven’t Personally experienced and tracked your own nervous system in action it can seem like trauma is something you can just talk about and that’ll be enough for those “other” people who have trauma to feel taken care of.

It’s not. Or not if you are running embodiment or therapeutic processes. Because trauma is such a Body thing.. We communicate safety to our clients with our Bodies, our energy and voices. With our embodiment.

To be truly trauma informed you need to have deepened your capacity to track your own fight, flight, freeze or fawn behaviours, to be able to stay present in your body and inner felt-sensing, and to experience the process of release and resolution of at least Some of your bound trauma or shock from the past.

This doesn’t have to be an intense process. You don’t have to go to the bottom of your barrel to be embodied in trauma informed facilitation. (In fact it works better if you start with pleasurable felt-sense processes to experience your nervous system in response to “good/ok” sensations). It doesn’t mean that you need to have “healed” your deepest stuff. Just that you’ve been willing to experience your own nervous system in action without just Thinking about it. You’ve walked the track you want your clients to feel safe to walk with you. (I see it a bit like reconnoitering before a hike.. you’ve checked out what the cliffs and ravines are like and your feet know the terrain).

So yes, having the information is a wonderful start. But if the information hasn’t moved through your body and the foundations of your work (the words you speak, the pacing, the level of choice you give and most importantly your embodied Presence) it can be a bit like a lot of “trendy” words spoken over the top of an old system. And it can be like walking your clients out on the hike with just a paper map in your hands, when their terrain is an alive, moving landscape.

This is why I’m offering an experiential training in trauma informed facilitation. 
Because I see a lot of wonderful counselors, therapists and coaches who have the information, but haven’t walked it through their body. They either don’t use the tools they have, or they talk “trauma informed” but don’t embody it, and so cant actually support someone in real time when needed. (Leading to clients staying stuck, blaming the work, and both of you losing confidence fast). Which I know is not what you want. You want to see your clients more free and happy and you want to be of service in a tangible way.

Being trauma informed to me means being more deeply human. More anchored in these fleshy vehicles. More present, compassionate and inclusive. And from that place, hearts heal. Families become healthier and poor strategies for survival are no longer chosen. You don’t need to yell so much when your nervous system, and that old wound, has been met. You don’t need to shut down and cut off from other people when your freeze response has been unwound and safety found in the body again.

Healing trauma releases a Lot of bound energy that can then be used for creating good things; more gardens, more spacious time hugging. More meditation and silence and listening to the wisdom of the earth. More good creative thinking, more systemic change that is connected to present-time Care.

Let’s do that, hey

If you want and need your work to be more embodied and trauma informed, this program will take you through 3 stages:

> Module 1: Work with the Mind to Support Somatic Healing
One of the biggest blocks to effective somatic work is the mind and the inner judge. This module will show you how to use the mind to support rather than hinder the process of resolution and healing. It’ll show you how to get deeper access to the somatic (embodied and programmed) patterns underneath thoughts and to know what to do when the ego/identity throws up defenses.

> Module 2: Landing in the Animal Body
This will teach you how to increase presence and body awareness in yourself and your clients (even the heady ones and the disassociated ones), understand and work with the body’s natural unwinding process, create emotional resiliency, and use language to create more safety and willingness in your clients body.

> Module 3: Successfully Work with Unconscious Programming
This module takes the core skills of the program and goes deeper into how to work with relational wounding, incorporate symbols and expressive arts, how to work with shame or common patterns of bracing or collapsing found when a client is facing something that has felt too big for them to digest. This third module brings the entire training to a 400hr Certification in Somatic Therapy (recognised by IICT) 

You’ll learn how to work with intention and attention in a trauma informed way, the maps to work with someone in a freeze or shutdown state. How to work with fight or flight responses in a way that invites resolution. How to use “time” to make content more manageable and you’ll master the Goldilocks Method; how to create the right balance of safety and challenge to create healing.

The training also includes a module on ethics and trauma as well as bonus teachings on creating effective secure attachment in sessions and the structural and relational elements to working with diverse clientele (multicultural, gender or sexuality).

The course is delivered online in a series of live workshops over the space of 12months:
15 classes, 16 full workshop days, with 11 x group inquiry and connection calls, 11 x practice and case consult calls, 6 x 1:1 sessions with me and 2 x 1:1 video review sessions and lots and lots more designed to help you Embody the work personally, anchor the skills and frameworks well and then naturally offer that safe and grounded presence to your clients. 

Class times are offered on Thursday mornings and Monday evenings and the workshops on weekends (AEST)

The first Module begins as soon as you are ready, and the second module starts on June 6th.

Check out the full outline here.

There are limited places as I want to ensure good quality attention for each participant. 

If you are interested, please reach out via PM (I don’t always get notifications if you comment below). I’ll ask a few questions to see if you’re a good fit for the program and we can begin with Module 1 soon as you’re ready!

Much love

Amanda

The most common reason for this is there’s a subconscious investment in “being the competent one”.

My clients are often women who had to be independent from an early age, and who have a very strong and capable “doer” part.

A part is like a sub-personality within each of us that hold emotions, perceptions, and belief systems, and that affect our behaviour and emotional wellness. Parts are either with us from birth (a soul aspect of self like being-ness, space or deep abiding calm) or develop in childhood and through life to help us cope and adapt (like the Strategist, the Rebel, the Pusher, the Critic etc).

So for someone who Needed to be competent and adult before their time, they will often develop this strong part that’s very good at getting things done, taking charge when others cant or wont, removing their own emotionality, supporting others at the expense of themselves and just taking care of business.

This strong part will often squash or deny the more vulnerable needy parts in the person in order to create a feeling of safety. When we are competent and strong, we don’t feel the incredible vulnerability of Having needs and being vulnerable to others’ responses (or lack of responses) to them. This dynamic sets up a struggle between the primary (competent) part and the disowned (vulnerable and needy) part. (To be clear, sometimes a person will have a primary part who is needy and in a victim stance – “I cant do this, I need help” etc, and will repress their inner strength and capacity – we’re just talking about the other version for now).

Clients like this often come to me exhausted and feeling like they’ve managed to do all these amazing things, (and survive incredible hardship) but they feel very sad or lonely or even desperate inside.

When we literally speak to each of the parts in turn, we find the root of the sadness in a disowned part so it can be integrated gracefully into your life. This is super healing and transformative for an over-achiever,.. and also can be very tender and a bit scary because its so new/unknown.

When we do this, rather than running with this hard-edge “I’m fine” attitude, you’ll also have access to the softness in you, and be more open to receiving the love and support you might be craving (which your strong, competent part has been keeping out till now).

This process forms one of the first phases of my Reset Program for exhausted successful women. We meet the parts of you that have been criticizing or pushing you to Just Keep Doing, and invite the other, softer and more connected parts to come forward. We help you create healthy boundaries (around your time, energy and communications), you get core tools so you can manage your emotional, physical and mental state, we heal the core stress drivers stuck in your nervous system (the reasons you cant sleep well or get foggy brained when you’re stressed) and we expand your capacity to hold and feel pleasure as you plan out a new way of doing life.

This is a complete package to walk you from hectic pace to calm and grace It includes 1:1 sessions, group processes, an accountability coach (cause yes, sometimes we do need accountability to do these important, lovely things for ourselves) and unlimited email support over 3.5months (we’ll break over xmas).

This’ll be a match for you if you have achieved success in your external world (business, finances and “achieving” in general) and are over-ready to stop pushing yourself so hard.

Reach out through the contact form if this sounds good for you, I’ll ask you some questions to see if you are a fit and we could begin next week.

Usually one of the parts driving this frantic pace is her Rulemaker.. – the one who has all the rules about how she should be. Some common rules are:

“I should be competent and know what I’m doing at all times” (even if I’ve never done something before)

“I should be a can-do person” (even if I can’t)

“I should be able to balance work, family, heath and spiritual wellbeing regardless of how much sleep, exercise or support I have”

“I should be humble and approachable”

“I should ambitious and committed to my goals”

Whatever she values and has had deep experiences with in her life, she will have rules about that thing. If she’s been working in corporate, she’ll have rules about her level of professionalism. If she’s explored healthy eating, she’ll have rules about what and when and how she eats etc. Someone who grew up in poverty or abuse with have a different rule set to someone who didn’t (eg. “I cannot appear clueless about money”, “I have to have the perfect family (or Else)…” etc).

Regardless of the topics of the rules, one thing is common. When you put all your rules together it will be impossible to achieve them all. Your Rulemaker is not interested in achievability.. but in having you meet the “standards” compiled from everyone you have admired and wanted to emulate or everything you didn’t want to follow. Your Rulemaker will be connected to a Pusher part (the one who wakes you up like an incessant coach first thing in the morning “Right! What have we got on today? let’s make a list.. come one!”) and a Critic (the one who compares you and your progress to everybody else and the standards the Rulemaker sets).

When you do this process to meet these parts, you’ll be aware of the Rulemaker when you hear the thoughts “I need to/ I have to/ it’s not ok not to…”. Then you have the opportunity to Choose whether these rules are important and valid to you today. We often find some rules are just unquestioned or outdated, passed on from family or society – and simply do not fit you or your life as you are now. Which often becomes the case when you’re nearing exhaustion/burnout.. because it’s often your rules that have gotten you here.

Doing this process helps to make all of this conscious so you don’t keep running (what may be an unrealistic or outdated) operating system. It takes the automatic “I MUST” out of the dynamic and creates this attuned, aware and listening relationship between you and your life.

After years of doing trauma work with folk to heal and resolve highly stressed states in the nervous system, I’ve found that doing this step early on, creates so much self-understanding, compassion and then space and momentum to make new choices arising from self-connection and authenticity, and something way more life-enhancing for you.

This forms the second step of the Reset Formula that I run, helping exhausted successful women move from frantic pace to calm and grace.

We start by clarifying your definition of unconditional success (what would feel like success for You if you included your heart and body and well-being?), then we create this healthy dialogue and dynamic between your inner parts; so you can relax and allow your heart to lead more. We create healthy boundaries around your time, energy and your word, with a powerful process for communicating boundaries that creates more closeness and trust (rather than hard walls or collapsed giving-in again) and more capacity for you to feel safe being in touch with your feelings and inner longings. Then we support your overall mental and emotional balance with nervous system regulation and healing processes that will help you create a new foundation for the rest of your life. The Reset program finishes with a focus on pleasure and building your capacity to include More of it as you design your life from a new state and place.

This program is ideal for women who have great capacity to succeed and get things done, but who are craving a new way to do what they’re great at that doesn’t cost them their health or joy. It’s a 3.5month 1:1 program with ongoing group support afterwards, some self directed processes and resources to build your resilience and feel enlivened again. As we’re coming into Xmas, you could begin within the next week, and move through the first 2 phases and first 2 1:1 sessions before we take a break over Xmas to integrate for a few weeks.

If this sounds like just what you need, please reach out through the contact form. I’ll ask you some questions to see if you’re a good fit for getting these results and we could begin within the week.

Obviously we can surround it with supportive environments and sounds, things that soothe and feel harmonious to that sensitivity … like the feeling of the finest silk, a day in the forest or a beautifully played piece of music.

But we can’t ALWAYS have soft and lovely things around us.

This is where BOUNDARIES and self knowledge comes in.

When you have a highly attuned nervous system, >> you really Wanna get to know your sensitive apparatus! Because, actually, when it’s respected by you and honoured with your actions, rather than being a burden, YOUR SENSITIVITY BECOMES A GIFT FOR YOU AND ALL THOSE AROUND YOU.

Your sensitivity becomes a wisdom voice.

It is able to feel deeper into the energies in a room and speak Truth when others may be avoiding it. It has the ability to Clear space. To bring integrity, because it can’t-not feel stuff!

I want to empower you to LOVE YOUR SENSITIVITY. Because, honey, the world NEEDS IT.

And it needs you knowing your edges and asserting your boundaries.. Not because the world is bad or wrong, but because you work better when your sensitive apparatus isn’t being crowded by others energy and when you have the resources to shine your unique light.

Sometimes we can be stuck under stories held in the body, past traumas, pains unfelt, fear of growing beyond our edges even when the soul is yearning to fly.

I specialize in helping women befriend their nervous system, train their mind to Back them rather than take the rug out from under their thriving, connect deeply with Spirit and cultivate joy and pleasure as a new normal.

LET ME HELP YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR SENSITIVITY AND STEP UP TO LEAD.

Reach me out through the contact form for more details on how I can help you xx

There’s a way to maintain your healthy boundaries around requests and agreements even when you feel torn and uncertain. The keys to this are to start with what you Do know and communicate from that place.

To do this, you want to:

1. Be able to know and name your experience and feelings (even if it’s just to yourself)

2. Be willing to sit in the unknown and let your inner experience be your boundary.

I’ll give you an example.

Say you’re arguing with your ex partner about the care of your child. He wants more time with Timmy during the week and you want to have the whole school week with Timmy so his routine isn’t disrupted. You would also Love to go to a new yoga class on Wednesday nights, but your worry about Timmy’s balance is nagging you. If your boundaries are a bit melty, you might struggle but end up saying ok cause you’re worried your ex will withdraw all child care if he doesn’t get his way (you worry what you lose if you say no). The result of melty boundaries will tend to feel like confusion, focus on the other, anxiety and internal collapse.

If your boundaries are more rigid, you might hear the request and say a strong no, and be unbending as your ex tries to discuss or negotiate. The rigidness stops back and forth dialogue, but it also tends to create less connection (to self and other), less trust, more distance and less easiness in the dynamic for future discussions.

But, if you were to try this method below, you’d hear your ex’s request and pause to check what you feel and think. (If you’ve got a history of melty boundaries, you might not actually know what you think or feel other than squirmy discomfort or worry. This is a good starting place).

Boundaries are what define the difference between you and I. I feel hot, you feel cold. You feel angry, I feel peaceful. These are undeniable things happening within the boundaries of your own experience. So your ex (let’s just call him Fred), cannot argue with your statement that you feel squirmy discomfort or worry, because it’s just what you feel. (Or – he can, but then he would be crossing over into your boundaries). Your boundary does not have to be a clear and concise statement. A boundary can actually be a statement of your thoughts, feelings or sensations.

This is how the conversation might go:

Fred: “I want to have Timmy on Wednesday nights”

You: .. pause… …. “I feel squirmy and a bit worried about that”

Fred: “I’d really like to have more time with Timmy than just weekends” You: (…finding a bit more clarity as you sit with the squirm and worry) “Ah, I’m worried that a change in routine would disrupt his sleep and schooling and make him moody again”

Notice, you haven’t said yes or no yet.

Fred: “But he needs his dad in his life, I want to see him on Wednesdays”

You: “Yeah, I’m just feeling worried about the disruption”

Fred might try to convince you you’re not worried or don’t need to be worried. If you just stick to what you know (“I feel… “, ” I am … ” etc.) this can be your healthy and listening boundary.

You are not putting up a rigid wall, and you are not collapsing to try to make it work. It’s a healthy boundary because you’re not overriding your own experience in order to bring harmony or agreement or an end to the discussion, and you’re not making Fred’s desires wrong.

So, where this conversation can go (because you haven’t prematurely acted) is that solutions could start being offered. Or.. if there’s underlying difficult dynamics with your ex, they may come up to be aired or spoken (with the same “I feel…” “I want…” honesty). Either way, you’re staying available to the moment and honest about your inner needs and experience. In an ideal world, the chat would continue like this:

Fred: “well….. I can pick him up from school and make sure he eats early?”

You: “That feels better…. (pause).. Could we cancel his after school classes on Tuesdays as well so he’s not so tired coming to you?”

Fred: “yes, I’m willing to do that. We can also try for a week or 2 and see how it goes?”

You: “Yes. That feels good”

So, you have a clear agreement, you stood firm in your own feelings and thoughts and needs (even when you weren’t quite clear yet what they were) and you didn’t override yourself. This kind of communication of boundaries even before you know what you want allows for back and forth negotiation, and more importantly, Listening. Notice as well that (in our example) nobody made anyone’s desires or feelings wrong (like “you’re selfish for wanting more time with him… ” or “Stop being so emotional, he’ll be fine” etc). We only do that kind of emotional blame or finger pointing when we’re trying to get the other person to stop feeling, wanting or saying what they’re saying. Which is none of our business (or within our own boundaries).

What IS your business (and thing to stand for) is what goes on within the boundaries of your own skin, heart and mind.

This is an example of how you can have connection and healthy boundaries when you’re feeling torn without collapsing or building a wall. And get your extra yoga class (or night off) at the same time. A win-win.

And this is one of the keys to becoming your own hero/champion and including yourself and your own needs in negotiations about childcare, work and project commitments and all the responsibilities of life.

Because, even though you Can do everything (be the loving mum, the successful biz woman, the considerate ex), life works way better when all of You is included and cared for in the process.

Mastering this process is part of how I help successful women stop taking on too much responsibility. Because it teaches them to listen and be patient as they decode their own inner experience, thoughts and needs, and then express them into the negotiations for what they do with their energy and time.

This is huge in shifting patterns of over-giving and exhausting themselves agreeing to things that end up costing them more energy in the future.

There’s a epidemic of over worked, over-stretched successful women in the world and healthy boundaries, a regulated nervous system and a friendly understanding of the ego drives that push us to over-give and become so exhausted is the pathway out that I offer.

If you need to gain your energy and time back from over-commitments, and want to learn how to have and communicate boundaries in a way that is firm and receptive, I run a wonderful 3.5 month 1:1 intensive to help women do just this.

We help you first to disengage from the worship of busy, to make your life an invitation for rejuvination, receptivity and rest. You get simple and profound tools for building healthy, courageous boundaries and the skilled guidance in uprooting the programmed responses and behaviours that have had you returning to the overworked, exhausted place over and over again.

The 3.5 month 1:1 program is online, with 9 long sessions, up to 4 laser coaching calls/month, online learning modules and unlimited email support. It’s ideal for you if you have done more than a beginners inner work and are committed to using your spot on the earth to create wonderful things (without burning out).

Reach out through the contact form if you’re interested, I’ll ask you a few questions to see if you’re a fit and we could begin within a week.

We work together for 3 months on the following things:

1. Meeting the critical, comparing voice inside that drives you to be so busy (that show up as endless lists of things to do, or criticisms of how you’re doing based on unrealistic standards). You learn how to reduce the amount of power these parts have in your life and invite other parts of you forwards that know how create the healthy balance and self-love you desire.

2. Creating healthy boundaries with your communications and responsibilities. Many women who’ve been in survival mode’s boundaries are non-existent, rigid or collapsed. This step will help you find what you want and need and give you the tools and safety to express this in a firm and clear way that doesn’t cut people or connection out. This step is about empowering you to stay soft and firm as you build a new way of life. We also focus here on giving you clear structures around self-care, work and personal commitments so your phone and emails don’t intrude, and your family commitments support you rather than drain you.

3. Regulating your nervous system to balance your emotional, physical and mental state. Your nervous system is the source of your automatic and repetitive behaviours, so when you learn how to regulate this primal operating system you create foundational flexibility and responsiveness (as opposed to brittle, reactiveness) and reduce the amount that stress and trauma stays in your body and brain. You also build your ability to feel and experience pleasure and rejuvenation. In this step, we address lingering, unprocessed trauma that may have had you stuck in activated and “on” states or shut down and numb so much of the time.

4. And once we have all these elements in place, we complete the program with practices and processes to help you open to receive pleasure and relaxation in new ways, and design your new life from this newly Reset place.

You get 9 x 1.5hr sessions, 9 x 15min laser coaching calls, homeplay practices and unlimited email contact to help you through the process.

In order to qualify for this offer, you must:

1. Be looking for a pivotal change in the way success looks and feels for you (and ideally be looking for mentoring to help you land more fully in your body and out of your head),

2. Have the capacity to feel your feelings, and have done some reasonably consistent mindfulness processes in your life,

3. Deeply value being a positive impact in your world (even if you don’t have energy to be that now).

4. And not be currently suffering from autoimmune conditions (this method is hugely supportive if you do have autoimmune conditions, but it would likely take longer than 3 months to get you the to results).

The investment for this life changing Reset is mid-four figures, which compared to the time, energy and money spent trying to follow the mindset, therapy or nutritional pathways to change your base operating state, (plus the expense on your health, relationships and overall quality of life in the meantime), is a total no-brainer. With this program, (as long as you qualify) you will have everything you need to avoid burnout and feel connected and inspired to create a life that you love again.

If you’re interested in this offer, just reach out on the contact form and we’ll have a quick chat to see if it’s a fit for you.